Friday, September 17, 2010
This morning, there has been quite a bit screaming, running around, not pooping, screaming, running around, and not pooping.
Then finally pooping in the potty, only to come downstairs, scream, run in the bathroom and simultaneously pull down his underwear, poop on the floor, oh and bust his lip on the toilet seat.
How does that even happen?
Other times, he pushes me out, closes the door and says, "I would like you to leave and give me some potty training."
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Sunday - No tee-tee accidents, but some poop went in the underwear.
Monday - We went to meet Sam's teacher at Mother's Day Out. He hadn't pooped when we left and I knew he needed to go. He had a couple tee-tee accidents while we were there which I think were because he was holding poop coupled with the fact that we were in a whole new environment and meeting new people. They still weren't bad though...again, a little bit came out and he caught himself. That afternoon, we had a poop battle. He pooped in his underwear 3 times within about 20 minutes. I was watching him very closely and taking him in the bathroom but he just wouldn't sit there and finish. There wasn't a whole lot I could do. I was beyond discouraged.
Tuesday - He had orientation at MDO in the morning and didn't have any accidents. I was relieved because I was totally expecting some kind of accident. Later,I was putting him down for his nap and he said he needed to go poop so he could get a car. Of course, so he could get a car ;). Pretty normal behavior...anything to delay going to bed, right? So I told him to run on in there while I finished putting away some of his clothes. I checked on him and he said, "would you please leave?" That was the first clue that he might actually poop in the potty on his own. You know what? He did. I was psyched! This time was totally different too. He was controlling things as opposed to him just sitting there and waiting for the poop to come out.
I don't know if he saw a kid do it at MDO or what but I guess something clicked. And hallelujah for the clicking!
Wednesday & Thursday - Things appear to be going really well. There is still an occasional, very small tee-tee accident but we haven't had any more poop in the underwear. Hallelujah!
I'm trying to set myself up not to be disappointed if we have a little regression but it's hard to imagine with how well he's doing now.
Boil it down to this:
-We waited a long time, past when most of my friends were potty training. This was because I did not want to put him in underwear, then go back to diapers, then go back to underwear, or use Pull-ups, etc. etc.
-We did it pretty hard core for about a week then eased off just a tad. I think in the first 3 days or so, we said, "Make sure you remind us when you need to go to the potty," at least 100 times. -Seriously.
-We had some pretty traumatic (more for me and Bob than Sam) moments when I completely understood why someone would go back to diapers.
-Sam did awesome with tee-teeing in the potty after about 2 days.
-I guess a light went off (poop-wise) 10 days after we put him in underwear.
-He's in Pull-ups at night now, which we refer to as "nighttime underwear." That's because we were having him tee-tee twice before bed, getting him up when we went to bed AND getting him up pretty early in the morning. With that method, he was staying dry but who wants to do that on a regular basis?!
-So we have him go twice before bed, put on nighttime underwear and sometimes he's dry in the morning (when Bob leaves around 6:30), sometimes not. That will come with time.
Do you have any potty-training tips you want to share? Any hilarious stories? Horror stories?
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
We got home around 4:30 to a house that had not been air-conditioned all week. It was 89° on the main level and 91° upstairs. Ninety-ONE. In the house. Neither of the boys had napped so we put Grey down in the basement bedroom for his nap. That sort of worked. We could tell Sam had to poop so we were both within about 4 ft. of him for an hour or two. Yep, an hour or two.
There was much resistance when he would grab his bottom, look at us pleadingly and we'd take him and put him on the potty. I'm talking he would straighten his whole body, lift off the toilet and yell. Bob and I were juuuust about done when he suggested we let Sam sit on the Lightning potty and watch a short movie on the portable DVD player. Bob went to cut the grass and I fed Grey dinner. I'd occasionally go check on Sam and he was just sitting there watching. At some point, I heard "I pooped. I pooped!!! Mommy, I pooped in the potty!" If you've potty trained, you can imagine my excitement. I was laughing I was so excited. We ran outside to tell Bob. "Stop cutting!! Stop cutting!" Sam kept yelling. Bob ran in to check out the poop and was equally excited. And then we went to get Shave Ices.
After we got the Shave Ice reward, which was really a reward for everyone since the temp. in the house still was around 85°, Bob and I decided we needed a different approach for bribes. We got this 18-wheeler car carrier that came with lots of little cars inside.
The deal is, Sam gets a car each time he poops in the potty and when he gets ten, he gets the white truck at the bottom. We haven't quite decided how he gets the black truck, but it'll be something like having a few days without any accidents.
We also started a sticker chart. I still don't know if he's that excited about the sticker chart but it helps me keep track of things.
Take 4 includes a drastic swing in the poop pendulum. It'll be up tomorrow.
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Saturday - packed up and drove to the beach. 4 1/2 hour drive. We stopped 5 times between Sam and me and he kept his diaper dry.
Sunday - Started underwear only, no diapers even at night. Lots of poop accidents, lots of tee-tee in the potty. Quite a bit of resistance from Sam too. Dry after nap (2 1/2 hours).
Monday-Wednesday - Pretty much the same. We watched him like a hawk, scooped him up and put him on the toilet when we saw an accident happening. Some tee-tee on the floor, a little bit in the underwear, lots in the toilet. He seemed to be getting the hang of that. One poop in the potty which resulted in this.
Next time, we will not reward so quickly, but heck, we were desperate. Ya feel me?
At some point during these three days, Sam went to the bathroom 10 times while we were trying to eat lunch. Ten.times. And something came out every time. To answer what you must be thinking, we couldn't get him to stay on the toilet and empty all the way out....so, we
Thursday - Melt down. Apparently he wanted to stand up like Daddy but couldn't communicate that in the heat of the moment (the melt down) so there was lots of poop in the underwear, pee on the floor of the bathroom, lots of screaming and crying, lots of Bob looking at me and me looking at Bob with the "what the heck do we do with this?" look. (Dry after nap).
A couple times this week, Bob took Sam in the bathroom with him to show him how all aspects of going to the bathroom.
Two of Sam's most repeatable responses were...
1 - Loooook, it's a baby and its momma!!!
2 - Oh, that's a BIG ol' poop!
Friday - We eased off a little, things went better. I don't think we had any tee-tee accidents. (Dry after nap).
Saturday - Headed home. Made lots of stops with the Lightning potty. Had a little bit of tee-tee in the underwear but it was the kind where he started, realized it and stopped.
And then we entered the pit of hell.
Take 3 will be up tomorrow.
Monday, August 30, 2010
Once your kid turns 18 months, it seems like the buzz starts. People start asking if you've started potty training, if you're thinking about it, what method you'll use, etc.
Boys potty train later. It's just a fact. Part of that is muscle control. They actually aren't able to control the necessary muscles as soon as girls are. Still, everyone
So for a few weeks I've been thinking Sam may be ready to start. He'll be three at the end of October. I've been mentioning it to him, we bought this, and we've laid out the bribes, M&Ms, a big bag, whatever type he wants.
My original plan had been to reserve a weekend, send Grey off, put Sam in underwear and see how he did...hoping he would pick up on it after a couple days and we'd be diaper free. Due to travel, Grey's birthday party, and random other events, we haven't really had a weekend we could do that and we won't have a weekend like that for another 3 weeks or so.
Sunday, Bob decided he was just gonna go for it. He says he noticed Sam pulling on his diaper so during breakfast, Bob asked if Sam wanted to go poop on the potty.
Success! And so we made a pit stop at the gas station on the way in to church to get M&Ms.
(Dark chocolate peanut for those who are wondering).
Of course, since we were headed to church and since he's in the nursery while we're in church, we had to put things on hold. But over the next few days, he had various other successes. His diaper wasn't dry for too long but he was having dry periods. Tuesday was kind of a bummer. He didn't want to try at all. In fact, I was starting to get a bit discouraged thinking we just needed to nix this plan and do the weekend thing.
Wednesday, we got back on track a little and he had a bit of a breakthrough. It became pretty obvious that he knew how to control the flow of urine. I kind of already knew this because he'd look at me (with a diaper on) and say, "I just tee-teed." Wednesday though, he was using the control to go in the potty. Yea! It was just the encouragement I needed. Weird right?
Big thanks to Bob for suggesting we mix up the rewards a little to include fruit snacks and pickles.
Thursday we had a few successes, nothing mind blowing.
Friday, Sam hopped up on the big potty and tee-teed. Then we ran to Publix and I wasn't giving it a whole lot of thought. In fact, I'd been trying to decide if we should just lay off until we have a few days where we can really focus on it.
So I'm finishing up my grocery shopping when he tells me he needs to tee-tee in the potty. I rush to the bathroom, squeeze me and my big belly, and the double shopping cart into the family restroom. About 10 minutes (no exaggeration) later, and after much of Grey's screaming, we had success! Wahoo!
Trading diapers for underwear and trading our vacation for potty training.
Take 2 will be up tomorrow.
Sunday, August 15, 2010
(not at all the way I expected to start this little endeavor)
Sam woke up with a soaking wet and poopy diaper.
He tee-teed in the big potty later in the morning - got some M&Ms.
We went to Publix to do a little grocery shopping.
Sam told me about halfway through that he needed to tee-tee in the potty so we raced to the bathroom.
I kept telling him to hold it, finagled the cart in the family restroom (which was hilarious with my belly), sat in there for probably a good 10 minutes - during which I would say, "ok buddy, if you're going to do it, you need to go on" or "it's ok if you don't have tee-tee, let's just go finish shopping".
He asked me to turn on the water.
He asked if he could get this little race car that holds Cheerios if he tee-teed.
I said yes.
Grey screamed a lot....A.LOT.
Sam tee-teed in the potty and got the car.
I was pretty impressed :).